“Monday 5 Things” ….. 5 for 25 …..
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Living a full life doesn’t happen by accident. It’s an amalgam of intentional decisions, daring actions, and organizing and strategizing about the big picture. All merged with quiet moments of reflection on the details necessary to start and complete that picture. It’s why I love the start of a new year. So many fresh possibilities for new beginnings with time to recalibrate any number of things in my life. Sitting in the Thompson Hotel overlooking the Savannah River with a cleansing ale close at hand, I sipped and thought about how I can best weave a tapestry of experiences, relationships, and achievements that truly matter in 2025. Whether you’re an adrenaline junkie, a quiet dreamer, or somewhere in between, this morning’s M5T shares five words I’ve chosen as compass points in 2025 to live my life with greater intention, balance, and joy.
1. REJECTION. Living fully starts with knowing what and even who doesn’t belong in your life. Rejecting isn’t about negativity. It’s about clarity and focus. Think of it as culling and curating your life. Reject the noise; the habits, relationships, addictions, or commitments that don’t align with your goals and dreams. These “noises” may seem harmless at first, but they quietly drain your energy and blur your focus. Rejection is the tool to cut through the clamor. It’s your permission to declutter not just your schedule but your soul. Be unapologetic about creating boundaries. You alone will be the one that fully respects your time, energy, and emotional well-being. There is tremendous power in saying no, but rejections aren’t just about saying “no” to others. It’s about saying “yes” to yourself. It allows you to reclaim the energy and mental real estate needed to pursue your priorities and passions; to making space in your life for growth through what truly matters to you. Distance yourself from those toxic people who lie to you, use you, or put you down. They have no place in the life you are building. Rejections are not acts of destruction but are acts of creation, bringing clarity to the life you deserve. What or who do you need to finally let go of in 2025?
2. RESTORATION. Restoration is about more than fixing what’s broken. It’s about rediscovering and enhancing the parts of ourselves that make us feel alive. What makes you feel alive? Life has a way of sweeping us up in a whirlwind of obligations, the incessant chatter and clatter of media, social or otherwise, leaving our passions and joys gathering dust in the corner. Chances are you’ve let some things fall by the wayside amid life’s busyness. Restoration is about bringing the good stuff back. This isn’t necessarily about grand transformations; it’s about the simple, meaningful acts that bring you back to yourself. Sometimes your passions and your well-being need a little care and attention to shine again. Restoration could mean reconnecting with an old friend, rediscovering a forgotten hobby, or investing in self-care. It’s not just about fixing what’s broken but enhancing what’s already good. Restoration invites you to pause, reflect, and reintroduce the things that spark your curiosity and nurture your soul. Restoration reminds you that the best parts of yourself are never truly lost. What or who do you need to restore in 2025?
3. RATTLE. Embrace the art of disruption. A full life isn’t a stagnant one, nor is it one spent in the cozy confines of routine and comfort. While there’s peace in predictability, true growth often demands stepping into the unpredictable. Rattling disrupts the ordinary with intention and purpose. It’s about shaking up your world just enough to remind yourself that you’re alive, capable, and brimming with untapped potential. This isn’t about being reckless. It’s about being fear-less. Rattling doesn’t mean dismantling everything you’ve built. It means opening the door to fresh possibilities, creating opportunities for the unexpected. Try something new. Push yourself to the edge of what you think is possible. Embrace some chaos, because growth lives on the other side of the unknown. However, growth doesn’t happen in stasis. Comfort zones, while safe, can become cages that limit your options and view. Breaking out is a declaration that you’re ready to stretch your boundaries and explore uncharted territory. Rattle things up by starting a bold project, striking up a conversation with a stranger, or finally taking that leap you’ve been too scared to attempt. What’s that idea you’ve been shelving, telling yourself it’s too big, too crazy, too scary, or too soon? Dust it off, embrace the excitement and the fear, and give it wings in 2025.
4. REFINEMENT. After shaking things up and rattling your world a little, it's time to step back and refine. It’s tempting to believe that progress is all about big, bold moves, but the reality is that true, lasting growth often comes from small, consistent improvements over time. Refinement isn’t about starting over. Refining means using what’s already there, elevating who you are, taking what’s raw and turning it into something polished, whether it’s your skills, your relationships, or your mindset. Refinement is not always flashy or quick. More often than not, refinement is about paying attention to detail, affecting small changes that make a big difference over time. What one area of your life can you start and commit to refinement in 2025?
5. RESISTANCE. A fulfilling life isn’t about avoiding challenges. it’s about how you respond to them. At its core, resistance is the deliberate act of standing firm, resilient against the forces of perceived shortcuts, distractions, or the nagging whispers of self-doubt. It’s about saying “no” to things that threaten to derail you and saying “yes” to what truly matters, even when the road ahead seems uphill. In a world of endless comparisons, constant notifications, and quick-fix solutions, resistance is an anchor. It’s the mental discipline that keeps you grounded in your vision and dreams when the world tempts you to drift toward mediocrity. Every time you resist procrastination, the need for external validation, or the urge to quit when you encounter failure, you strengthen your character. Resistance isn’t about stubbornness. It’s about clarity. It’s about knowing what you stand for, where you put your faith, and being unwavering in your commitment to that vision. Resistance isn’t futile, it’s transformative. It requires effort, but the rewards are profound: greater confidence, inner peace, and the satisfaction of knowing you stayed true to your path. What temptation or negative habit is holding you back, and will you begin the path of resistance in 2025?
Here's to a year of rejecting what drains you, restoring what brings you joy, rattling the cage of complacency, refining your vision, and resisting distracting temptations, to live a fuller life by design. Happy New Year to each of you!
As a side note, we’ve all had our share of issues with FB and scumbags impersonating and attempting to steal our FB identities. It happened a number of times to me last year. The algorithm has been frustrating as well, to say the least. Starting this week, Monday 5 Things will be migrating to web-based www.Monday5Things.com. Please consider signing up to receive M5T via email this year. Thank you all for your continued support. I will keep you updated on the progress of the transition.
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